I took great pride in having friends and relationships since I was five years old. Over the past few years, I realized that all relationships are not worth cherishing. However, those that are worth it requires five major components for success: commitment, communication, compromise and consistency! The fifth task is specific to personal relationships...companionship.
The Importance of Commitment
It is up to you how you prioritize these tasks, but commitment
is number in my experience. When commitment is prioritized by both parties, a
vested interest, the relationships will survive basic human idiosyncrasies, little
things that a person does that you do not like will irritate you, but it will
not be a deciding factor to the longevity of your relationship. Your love and
desire to be with that person in a personal relationship will survive their
irritating or annoying behavior(s). Your business success will be stronger than
these behaviors in your business relationship.
The Impact of Communication
I have lost relationships in the past due to lack of
communication. They refused to communicate what was going on with them to me.
They began acting different, being rude, disrespectful in public and started
making unfounded accusations. The key to effective communication is being open
to listen to the other person and sharing how they made you feel when they did
whatever they did to you. I try not to let things build up inside of me because
1) Being at peace is important to me 2) Communicating with a person who has
hurt you helps both of you. They know you are hurt, and you get to release the
stress and pain by sharing your feelings. Great business relationships have these
communication acumens also.
The Art of Compromise
Yes, compromise is an art. I had to learned to be happy in
my personal relationships and to build successful business relationship (ie
strategic partnerships) compromise is essential. As a businesswoman for over 40
years, I realized that I loss some great partners because I did not compromise
effectively. People will support what you do if they can see how they benefit
also. Benchmark International defines a strategic partner as another business
entity in which you develop a plan or agreement to share resources with the
mission of growth and mutual success. Achieving mutual success is the art of
compromise.
The Vital Role of Consistency
Consistency is vital in anything you do to accomplish
success. Relationships are no different. As the old adage go, “Consistency is
the Key!” Mates look for consistency in their personal relationships. As I
matured, I began to watch consistency before I totally gave my heart to a man.
If they were not consistent in something that was very important to me, that
was a deal-breaker. I ended two engagements because of inconsistencies. Consistency
is simply about habits formed that changes people perception of who you are and
what you do...it all goes back to your level of commitment to your business and
your relationships.
Companionship with Your Mate
I must admit, I have longed for a companion that understood
me, loved me and wanted to be with me. One who would provide nonjudgmental
support, be consistent, want to communicate, be willing to compromise and
showed compassion for things I shared with him.
We have declared each other “lifetime partners.” We recognize our
differences, allow each other to be authentically who we are and communicate
our concerns so we can come up with a compromise that works for both of us. He
is consistent, reliable and eagerly let everyone important in his life know how
important I am to him. With all of the 5Cs intact in your relationship, you can
experience amazingly fabulous companionship with your mate also.
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